Are you feeling worn-out from your daily routine in the house while looking after the kids? Does it bother you when you face the mirror and you don’t seem to recognize yourself anymore?
While looks are certainly not everything, it’s been proven that those with a positive image of themselves tend to feel less stress, which in turn leads to more enjoyable parenting.
Being a parent is never easy, but being a stay-at-home mom is much more challenging. We love our family so much that we give up a lot of things, and sometimes we may forget about ourselves – which should not be the case. We should not forget that we moms are important. Without a mom staying sane to keep the household going, there’ll be a huge difference to what a home could become.
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Why Is It Very Challenging To Become A Stay-At-Home Mom?
Being a stay-at-home mom is a role that is often scrutinized by people. Some may think that you’re merely enjoying the luxury of receiving your beloved husband’s paycheck while you stay home all day. However, the reality speaks otherwise. If you are a hands-on mom at home, you need to get yourself ready with a variety of challenging stuff every day. Here are some of the things worth mentioning:
1. You’ll Need To Do A Lot Of Multi-Tasking
Who said that you actually need to sit in front of a computer or wear a corporate attire to do multi-tasking? At home, you need to accomplish a lot of things in a snap of a finger – cooking, doing the laundry, bathing the kids, feeding the kids, keeping the kids safe, healthy and happy, doing the dishes, cleaning the house, and maintaining the cleanliness (which is a lot harder). Add to these errands for groceries and bill payments. You may also need to learn to become a nurse (to take care of the sick), a driver (to bring and fetch them from school), a referee (when kids get mad at each other), a teacher (to help them read and write), a counselor (to whom they could confide their feelings) and of course, a “genius” who can answer questions regarding anything and everything under the sun. So the question is, when can you have a bathroom break?
2. You’re Always There.
Love your home because it is where you’ll always be. When you decide to become a stay-at-home mom, you may need to forget a couple of stuff you have enjoyed when you were still working or way back your pre-kid status. Though it is actually an advantage to be there whenever your little child needs you, there will also come a time that you might feel restricted and isolated from the outside world.
3. You’ll Be On Duty 24/7.
Okay, so do you still know what a “day off” means? If you’re a stay-at-home mom, you’ve probably dropped that word out of your vocabulary. If you’re lucky, you may have the luxury of having even just an hour off from household and mommy duties. This is especially true if you are still raising younger kids who are almost totally dependent on you. You’ll be surprised at how you’ll treasure simple pleasurable moments like having a full bath or enjoying a coffee while it’s hot.
5 Easy Ways To Stay Fab While Being A Stay-At-Home Mom
As you can see, being a stay-at-home mom is a very challenging role, but don’t be discouraged. All those difficulties and stressful situations will eventually pay off. When you see your kids smile and offer you their warmest hugs and kisses, all the hard work and body aches fade away. However, as much as we love our family, we must also love ourselves.
Stay-at-home moms are tough women but they will also need some “me time” to recharge their batteries and feel good about themselves. Here are some ways to stay awesome while keeping up with your everyday duties at home:
This one’s a top priority. Enough sleep helps improve your over-all functioning, gives you time to rest and will keep you looking good the next morning. As per CDC guidelines, an average adult (aged 18 to 60 years) needs at least seven hours of night sleep.
Since you do not have a boss or deadline to meet, you will have to find your own time to get enough sleep. If you’re having a problem doing this due to mommy duties, then here’s the trick – send your kids to bed early. When they sleep early, you can also finish all your tasks early and enjoy the rest of the night for your “beauty rest”.
2. Eat Healthy
When you want to look good from the outside, then you’d better start from the inside. One of the good things about being a stay-at-home mom is that you get to plan and prepare the meal for you and your family. Since you are the master of the kitchen, you can easily shift into healthier meals rich in vitamins and minerals that will also benefit you in the long run. Incorporate fruits and vegetables into your daily diet for that healthier glow on your skin. Cut-down on too much oil and sweets to keep your body fit and fab. Make it a habit to drink plenty of fluids to keep your body hydrated.
Most stay-at-home moms would agree that with their fully packed daily activities, it becomes almost impossible to make up time for exercise. Though you may have an extra time, you might eventually feel too exhausted to work out.
However, studies show that exercise can positively increase one’s mood. In an article published by the American Psychological Association entitled “The Exercise Effect”, a Boston University professor named Dr. Michael Otto emphasized that exercise can actually enhance one’s mood and effectively help relieve stress in a matter of five minutes.
So, the next time you’re too overwhelmed with your everyday routine, why not spend a couple of minutes jogging or do some simple workout? There are lots of ideas you can get from the internet, television or your fellow parents on how to do quick and easy exercise routines without leaving your home. By doing so, you can enhance your overall mood as well as keep a fabulous and healthy body you’ve been dreaming of.
4. Stick To Your Own Parenting Style
It is a known fact that stress could really make a person look dull and older than her age. Sadly, being a mom is always accompanied by stressful situations and among them are people who might cross the line and judge your parenting style. This is especially true with new parents, as they get a lot of inputs from family members, in-laws, friends, neighbors and even strangers on how they should raise their child and deal with family matters.
This shouldn’t be the case. No person or even research can pinpoint the best parenting style for your family. As much as every individual is unique, every family has its own distinct characteristics and needs to be met. As long as you are thinking about the welfare of your child and your family as a whole, then nobody can tell you what’s right or wrong.
Yes, it is alright to listen to advices and tips from other people, but the only person you should be coinciding with is your partner. Communicate with your partner about the parenting style that you’d wish to implement for your family and stick with it. By doing so, you can decrease your overall stress levels and maintain a positive attitude towards raising your kids and running your household.
5. Establish A Positive Support Group
When you were single, you may have a large network of friends whom you can talk to and hang out with every time you feel bored or lonely. Well, say goodbye to them because you may not be able to see them for years when you become a stay-at-home mom! Kidding aside, this is the reality. Though there are some who are lucky and get to see their friends or relatives often, most home-based moms may find it hard to even communicate with other people to share their every day struggles.
Nonetheless, establishing a good support network is extremely important. You may have a few trusted friends, relatives or your siblings whom you can lean on when you are not feeling okay. You may also take advantage of joining online parenting forums where you can share your insights and learn more about effective parenting. Having a positive support group will help you keep yourself “sane” and have a more positive outlook towards your family life. If you feel good inside, you’re sure to have that beautiful positive aura as well.
Moms who chose to stay at home to take care of their family are doing a difficult job every single day but this shouldn’t be a reason to prevent them from looking and feeling good about themselves. These tips would help you achieve the better version of you, without ruining your duties at home. So the next time you see yourself in the mirror, plan on starting these easy ways to keep you a fabulous mom.