Pregnancy is typically viewed as an exciting, happy and wonderful experience. You have this little miracle growing inside you that you made, and the hormones running through the body should make you feel energized and happy. Only, you don’t.
Instead, you feel tired, sweaty, you have horrendous morning sickness and you feel terrible. You hate your pregnancy, and that makes you feel even worse as you think there must be something wrong with you. Sound familiar? If so, you’re definitely not alone!
Far more women hate their pregnancy than you might think. While it is a wonderful and euphoric experience for many women, for others it’s an utter nightmare. Each woman has a different experience of pregnancy and that’s OK! You don’t have to love it, especially if you’re experiencing bad side effects. However, if you are hating your pregnancy, you don’t just have to ride it out alone.
Here, you’ll discover some top tips you can follow to make your pregnancy more bearable.
Don’t Hide How You Feel
It’s common to want to hide how you feel, especially to friends and family. You might be worried they’ll think there’s something wrong with you, or you might think that admitting it will simply reinforce your own feelings that you must be a bad person for not loving your pregnancy. Whatever the reasons, hiding how you feel may feel like the easiest solution, but it’s only going to make the experience worse.
Bottling up your emotions is a really bad idea. It’s only going to make you feel even more miserable and isolated. So, it’s important to be honest when people ask you how the pregnancy is going. You might just be surprised by how supportive your loved ones are.
It’s also a great idea to find other women who are experiencing the same feelings about their pregnancy. If you look online, you’re sure to find groups and forums specifically designed for those struggling through their pregnancy. In fact, we have our own parenting and pregnancy forum, which you can join for free by clicking here!
Having somewhere you can talk openly and honestly about how you feel with those who are experiencing the same thing can be extremely helpful. It will also help to show you that you really aren’t alone in how you feel.
By being open and honest, it also helps to end the stigma and encourages more women to talk about their negative experiences. So, don’t bottle it up, start being honest, and you’ll soon see this really helps to ease those negative thoughts and feelings.
Understand There’s Nothing Wrong With You
Most women who hate their pregnancy think it’s because there’s something seriously wrong with them. It’s understandable, given that you’re largely bombarded with how awesome pregnancy is (or should be). It also doesn’t help that every other pregnant woman you meet seems to be loving the experience. So, it’s definitely logical you’d come to the conclusion there must be something wrong with you for not embracing this magical time.
The truth is, there is absolutely nothing wrong with you. No really, there isn’t! Sure, some women do find their pregnancy an amazing experience. However, some also lie about how they are feeling. Think about it. When someone asks you how the pregnancy is going, don’t you sometimes lie too, telling them what you think they need to hear? Well, that could be exactly what other women are doing too. They too may be embarrassed or ashamed to admit they aren’t actually enjoying it.
If you look into the statistics, you’ll find that almost half of pregnant women don’t enjoy their pregnancy. You just don’t always realize it because most aren’t comfortable openly admitting it.
Just because you hate being pregnant doesn’t mean you’re going to be a bad mom. It doesn’t make you any less of a woman and you’re certainly not alone. Remember this the next time you start to feel like there’s something wrong with you!
Focus On Easing Your Symptoms
The majority of women who hate their pregnancy, do so because they have pretty terrible symptoms. It’s pretty hard to feel excited and happy when you’re struggling with back pain, swollen ankles, morning sickness and difficulty sleeping! So, if you want to make it a little more bearable, you’re going to need to focus on easing your symptoms.
There are lots of things you can do to tackle every symptom of pregnancy. Often, making simple changes such as eating a healthier diet and carrying out gentle exercises each day, can do wonders for how you feel. If your problems are more emotional, make an effort to get out of the house more and try not to isolate yourself. Try out the different morning sickness remedies available out there.
If you can at least ease some of the symptoms, you’ll find the pregnancy so much easier to deal with.
Don’t Be Afraid To Seek Help
Last but not least, never be afraid to seek help if you need it. Whether that be from family and friends, or a professional.
Sometimes, talking to a doctor can really help. They’ll be able to advise you on how to deal with any unpleasant symptoms you’re having, as well as reassure you that you’re not alone. If you are really struggling emotionally, they may also be able to point you in the right direction for counseling if it’s needed. Once you reach out and ask for help, it automatically relieves part of the burden you feel from carrying it around on your own.
Overall, a lot of women hate their pregnancy but they’re too ashamed to admit it. You need to realize that it’s OK to not love being pregnant. You don’t have to apologize for it and there is help available. The above is some of the best ways to make your pregnancy more bearable if you are struggling to cope.
Did you hate your pregnancy? Share your experiences below so we can break the stigma and let women know that it’s OK not to be OK when you’re pregnant.