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“Parenting is a very easy, care-free, and a less stressful job” – well, this is a common misconception about becoming a parent. Parenting is always about complexity, and it is never easy! Do you agree?
To stick with a list of the most effective ways of parenting isn’t that effective in any way. Why? It is because one idea may be applicable to you but not to other parents. There are also some instances that you couldn’t apply a certain parenting idea at the moment, but you may find it handy later. Sounds tricky? Yes indeed! Raising kids and running a family is all about versatility, trial-and-error, spontaneity and continuous learning.
Nevertheless, for most parents, here are 5 of the most important things to ponder on when raising well-rounded and healthy kids:
A Healthy Relationship With Your Partner
The first most important thing in our to-do list is not directly for our kids but for us, adults. Establishing a good relationship with our significant other is the key to raising good children.
While some may take this for granted, doing well with our relationship sets a good example in the eyes of our children.
Upon observation, you will notice that even a minor misunderstanding with your partner greatly affects the way your children will behave. If they are exposed to cold treatments and quarrels more often, there is a huge tendency that they’ll grow up building conflicts with their siblings and other people as well. They may also tolerate unfair arguments and quarrels in their future relationships, as your relationship provides them with the expectations of what a relationship should look like.
A happy couple often results to happier kids. A healthy relationship will often create a healthy and warm environment within our home. This positive home milieu is what our children tend to reflect in their way of thinking and behavior.
Family Bonding Time
With today’s fast-paced environment, we might find a busy schedule as an excuse for not giving sufficient time for our kids. However, this shouldn’t be the case.
Even the busiest parent on earth can offer a couple of minutes spending quality time with his/her children. That is if they really want to. As the saying goes, “If there’s a will, there’s a way.” We can apply this to our everyday living and be mindful in sparing some time to have fun or relax with our family. Always remember that quality is better than quantity. You can think of a lot of ways to create quality activities that you can enjoy together as a family even in a small amount of time.
A family bonding time offers a lot of benefits for parents and their children. Some of those worth mentioning are:
- It increases the child’s sense of self-worth and confidence.
- It offers time to release stress and relax.
- It encourages children to open up to their parents.
- It helps the family grow closer to one another.
- It has positive effects on your work and your children’s studies.
Lending An Ear
Listening to our children’s concern is a big deal to them. Be it as simple as dropping a coin in a bin or a more complex problem like being bullied by somebody, our children need our attention in any way. It is important for parents to hear what our children are saying since we are the one whom they perceive as “heroes” that will help them overcome those problems.
Also take note that there are times when your children wouldn’t speak up but imply through their actions that “there is something wrong”. It is critical for parents to know the implications behind a sudden shift in our child’s behavior since it may turn out to be a more serious concern that we must promptly address.
Letting our kids know the value of responsibility early on will help them become responsible adults later on. According to Dr. Norbert Herschkowitz, co-author of “A Good Start in Life: Understanding Your Child’s Brain and Behavior”, children learn the sense of responsibility by completing household chores and letting them be part of the team.
We may start with simple tasks such as pouring water into a plastic cup, wiping their own table or folding small towels and handkerchiefs. A three-year-old toddler may not manage to perfectly do these tasks for the first time, but you’ll be surprised that in a matter of weeks, this little kid will be able to perform tasks in a neater, more organized manner.
Along with teaching them how to become responsible kids, we must also remember to offer compliments for a job well done. Children look forward to being given credits for what they’ve accomplished and a few words of positive encouragement would mean a lot.
Putting Them To Bed Early
Finally, setting up an early bedtime for your children is equally important. Sleep is a basic necessity and it allows a child’s body to rest and regain energy for the next day. A sound sleep would also promote a relaxed mind which is prepared for some new learning opportunities the next morning. A good night’s sleep also prevents children from becoming too irritable and restless by the time they wake up.
An early bedtime also has additional benefits for parents. When the children are already asleep, parents have ample time to relax and do personal stuff which they can’t sneak in during the busy day. Be it enjoying a much-sought bubble bath or reading a classic book, you are sure to appease that inner desire of having a “me time” when you put your children to sleep early.
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